OK, I've got your attention! Now let me share some advice Gerald Rogers gave in his Live Big blog. He said he wished he knew these things before his marriage of 16 years fell apart. So men, listen up! You're still got time! I've selected only a few of his suggestions. If you'd like to read his entire blog, go to: http://geraldrogers.com/marriage-advice-i-wish-i-would-have-had/
1: Never ever take your wife for granted. Keep courting; keep dating; keep falling in love with her again and again and again.
2: Commit to being the protector of her heart--and yours. Make a special place for her in your heart. "Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone else enter."
3: Accept her as she is with no expectation that she will ever change. It's not your job to fix her. Instead, see the best in her and let her know what you admire about her.
4. Don't expect her to make you happy. "You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love." Don't blame her. Take responsibility for your own feelings, and if they are triggered by childhood wounds, get help to heal yourself.
5. Be honest and transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share everything--especially those things you don't want to share. Drop the mask. It takes courage, but let her love you in good times--and bad. That's the only way to really grow together.
6. Be silly. Don't take yourself so seriously. Laugh and make her laugh. Have fun together.
7. Be vulnerable. You don't have to be perfect or pretend you have all the answers. "Be willing to share your fear and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes."
8. Fill her soul everyday. Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important, validated and cherished. "Ask her to create a list of 10 things that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel loved."
9. Forgive immediately. Focus on the future. Don't let the past hold you hostage like an anchor. Forgiveness cuts you free to choose love.
10. Be present. "Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully with her. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is."
11. Give her the tender caress of words and touch . . . "to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully."
12: "Allow your woman to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… Don't run away when she's upset. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion."
Gerald Rogers ends his blog with these words: "MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you."
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